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that can trigger defensiveness such as, “You always…” or flexibility and increased options. The use of webcams and
“You never…” It is important to avoid absolutes (always other technological methods are viable alternatives to the
and never) as these are “never” true regarding an individ- face-to-face classroom. Therefore, the couple would bene-
ual’s behavior. Instead of labeling or criticizing your part- fit from exploring current day options for pursuing further
ner’s behavior, it may be more productive to simply ex- education.
press your own feelings in a manner that may decrease the
chance of dissention. For example, phrases that begin with 3. Explore the Finances
“I feel” rather than “You always” convey the message that Returning to school can be a costly endeavor therefore the
you want to explore and discuss rather than accuse and crit- couple should explore their current financial situation, de-
icize. Overall, as you engage in such sensitive topic areas, velop a budget, and consider ways of adjusting spending
be sure to consider both your feelings and those of your habits. In the long run, this may help decrease finance re-
partner. lated stress. In addition, it is important to explore wheth-
er one’s current job may help pay for the degree if it is
2. Consider Various Options directly relevant to the company needs. Furthermore, the
As an individual considers returning to school, it is neces- individual should explore grants, scholarships, and educa-
sary to explore whether he or she would like to participate tional loans as alternative ways of funding.
in the traditional classroom or through distance education.
The traditional classroom requires being at a certain place The decision to return to school after settling into family
at a certain time. In addition, this allows for face-to-face life can be both beneficial and stressful. Therefore, it is im-
connections with the professor and fellow classmates. portant to consider your partner’s emotions in addition to
Yet, if one’s schedule does not allow for participation at your own. Take time to consider the three factors of main-
scheduled times or if the degree of interest is not within taining a healthy marriage, considering various options,
the immediate geographic location, then distance education and exploring the finances as you step into this significant
serves as a great alternative. This learning method allows transition and you may be well on your way to a balanced
the person to engage in higher education with a level of decision.